Traditional thought to live together
Often, men and women from
different families become one after marriage. Must get married to live together
and they live together, they form their own family. Marriage was an agreement,
in which you move from their world to a role of responsibility, agreement and
sacrifice. You and your partner have a responsibility to keep both families
together for the success of the marriage.
Modern thought to live together
However, this is not without options. Men and women can live together without getting married. Some are connected for practical reasons, some for emotional reasons. After all, it is not uncommon for men and women from different families to live together. This tendency is widespread, especially in Western societies. Our society is not immune from this either.
How reasonable is it to live together without getting married? This question arises because there may not be a love affair between young people living together. And, they may not even get married. They may be connected in this way only to make practical life comfortable and to fulfill physical needs.
Understand partner’s behavior
Therefore, while in a live in, your partner behavior, thinking, purpose, expectations can all be evaluated. How is your partner treating you? How do you see yourself? You have to understand that.
Live-in begins with the
eyes. External attraction to someone is the transformation into love. Only when
one is start to liv together know his/her true nature. In the initial stage,
the nature and behavior of others cannot be known.
If they are interested in
taking care of their little things, what kind of clothes are suitable / what is
not suitable, what they ate, what they did not eat and give proper advice, then
such lovers are suitable as spouses.
Benefits of Live in together
While in a live in, you
can decide whether to accept or embrace your partner as your spouse. What is
exempted at this time is that you do not have to fulfill any legal provision to
leave if you do not partner in your life. You don't have to keep socializing.
So, if you are not satisfied with some of the tendencies of your partner, you
can break up.
Emotional connection
They live together, eat
together, share bed, share their lives. After living like this, emotional
connection has to be established. As time goes on, there may be differences
between them. Or may isolate them for practical reasons. In such a situation,
their relationship will not remain the same as it was before. Expectations,
relationships, benefits and harms towards each other bring turmoil in their
lives. As a result, in some cases they become mentally disturbed and, in some
cases, they even suffer depression.
Effecting bond and emotions
Once they are in a
live-in relationship, there is no bond between them to meet and leave. They can
meet or leave when they are in the mood. Therefore, even a momentary whim or mood
affects their relationship.
There is a facility for dismissal in this regard. This is not a complicated bond like a traditional marriage. It does not require anyone's consent to leave.
In a live-in relationship, it's okay to have a good relationship with your partner, otherwise you can end the relationship at any time you want. Agreeing in this regard without wanting to do so is tantamount to inviting the event. In the West it is also called 'walk in walk out' relationship.
Freedom of Choice
The one who wants to end the relationship can do it and the other cannot be accused of moral responsibility or bad character. One of the things to keep in mind when adopting this culture from the West is that even though each other wants to be in a relationship, they want to treat each other like husband and wife, have children, get married and have rights over each other. Not everyone in a relationship wants to.
After spending a lot of time with each other, one of the two becomes emotional, which is detrimental to the relationship. Therefore, it is advisable to end this relationship before anything bad happens.
It is necessary to have faith in every relationship. Where two people are together, trust is essential. If one of the two is not trustworthy or you have a problem because of your partner, you should leave your relationship at the same time.
Being in a live-in relationship, there is no compulsion to endure the problems given to the partner, to face his unnecessary things. He can also take the help of the police to solve the problem given by his partner. But things like committing suicide out of frustration, killing out of anger should not be allowed.
Risk of live in
The effect of live-in relationship is more on women than men. Because this type of relationship depends on attraction rather than love. When the attraction of the body begins to disappear, the relationship begins to split. There is a fight between the two. Leaving this type of relationship has a lot of impact on women. Our traditional thinking society does not respect women who have lived in the same house or room with a person before marriage.
In such a situation, women start to feel dark about their future. Even today, in our patriarchal society, it is not the man's fault. But society views women with hatred, forcing them to suffer.
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