Some have recently
tied the knot. The more exciting the early days of marriage, the more
dilemmas and misunderstandings. When two people with different
backgrounds, different thoughts and behaviors are into the same life, not
everything goes well.
The newlyweds have
to accept each other. In order to get along with each other in this way,
some things have to be given up. A happy marriage begins with sacrifice,
dedication, understanding, and cooperation.
In the early days,
couples do not get to know each other well. Each other's habits, thoughts,
interests, aspirations, skills and abilities. Your spouse may not like
your habitual behavior, your interests or thoughts may not like your spouse. The
desires and aspirations of both may not be the same. In this case,
understanding is necessary for them. How many things to accept, how many
things to give up. If you put yourself at the center of the decision,
impose your views, consider yourself supreme, then marital life can be painful.
Couples can make
some mistakes in the early days.
1. Some people
think that they should accept what they are doing wrong. This kind of
thinking can lead to marital discord. Disbelief, hatred, incompetence finds
a place.
2. Before
marriage, they have many fantasies about their spouse and according to that,
they also have expectations. It is wrong to think that your spouse will
accomplish everything you expect. Expectations also cause strife in
marital life.
3. In the early
days, couples try to be like each other. They think that everything is
fine and that their mate should do the same. But you have to accept
someone as you are rather than make them like you.
give up something
Everything can be
done as you wish before marriage. Like what to eat, what to wear, when to
sleep, where to go.
But, after marriage,
it is not possible to make your own decision in all these matters. You
also have to coordinate with your spouse's habits and behavior. Their
thoughts and desires should also be respected. When making any decision,
one should keep in mind the desires and interests of both, not putting oneself
at the center.
accept something
When marital life
enters, we have to accept or change each other's dispositions, tendencies,
behaviors.
Not everything goes
well between young men and women who grow up in different backgrounds. The
nature and tendency of both may not be the same. What happens to some
people is that their decision or their thinking is right. What you do
should be acceptable. This kind of stubbornness does not make a marriage
work. When someone else enters your life, you have to give them some
space. Special for their interests, special for their aspirations, special
for their temperament.
This is what is
meant by sacrificing and surrendering to marriage. Let's accept the words
of others. Let's accept the wishes and aspirations of others.
understand something
When we get married,
our scope becomes wider. The income of our relationship increases. We
have to compromise not only for ourselves, but also for others.
The bride has to
look her best during this time, because of posterity more than anything else. The
groom should also show harmony and respect towards his in-laws. Both
should support each other's family in terms of their own family members.
In some cases, the
economic and social background of the bride and groom do not match. In
such cases, one dominates the other. The interference of one over the
other increases. This is your pride. Pride makes married life
miserable.
Therefore, one
should not despise others, try to put pressure on them, try to dominate
oneself. For marital happiness, both need to understand each other. We
should respect each other's families.
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