A incident related to my childhood, i was a student of grade 1. One day i was late for my school. My Dad drooped, Dad explains to my teacher why i was late for school. The teacher says- No problem, next time please per-inform us. My Dad moved to his office. Its may be half of my first class, i was called in office room and asked by the same question why i was late for school, i was quite, i was afraid that i will be punished. And what i was punished. Corporal punishments let me downed. But my family created me the environment where i can share my problems/ suffer.
Can Beating Child “Get
Them Right Way?” Beating is the solution
to the problem? Let
us meditate once. Why did we beat them? Because they won't repeat the mistake again. Or
will be obedient. They will improve their habits
due to fear of being beaten is that so?
Every
parent wants their children to obey everything they say. What do you do if your children disobey you? Most parents agree that their children do not go
down without being beaten. But
fear, intimidation, and corporal punishment teach a child wrong.
Children
feel frustrated and helpless when they are beaten by older ones. This can make them depressed or even aggressive. So we need to be know well about how we want
them to do, what we want them to do. Younger children may not realize that their
actions or practices are wrong. You
need to be patient while explaining. The children always want to please the parent
and look happy.
Beating
does not solve problems, but makes them sad. Beating up on their children scares them and
doesn't even express their things. When speaking to children, speak in
sweet language. Because
the language you use in front of them, your children imitate it. Avoid
abusive words to your children. Words
and language can traumatize a child's brain as much as beating. Therefore, a parent should not be aggressive on a
child's mistake.
Before
blaming or beating your child, you should understand why a child has made such
a mistake. Your child should also be
thoroughly explained about what they did wrong, how they made a mistake. The cause of the error must be determined and
left out.
At
home, the basic necessities like cleaning, safety measures, eating, reading,
entertaining and bedtime rules should be taught from the beginning. Beating makes children angry, aggressive and
angry. They
can also cause feelings of fury. Corporal punishment makes it difficult
for a child to distinguish between right and wrong. So if you think that beatings are the right way then
you are wrong.
If
you want your child to be obedient, you too must change some of your habits. Like listening to your children, they need to
spend time with them. They should have a positive attitude toward
themselves. You
need to be thoroughly reminded of what you want them to do and what will happen
if they do not. Children should be made aware of all the bad things
without beating them with beating or bad speech.
What is good, what is
bad? Doing so should clearly
explain the consequences. Even
if you beat the little things of a child, he or she will learn to beat others.
Explaining the reasons why these things are bad explains the child well and
never repeats the mistake. It
is the duty of the parent to understand the feelings of the children and to
fulfill their needs.
Your
child cannot handle bad things. Child
also begins to distance from their friends, for which and even consider them
self alone. Therefore,
you should treat your children as friends. Your children should
appreciate the good. You
have to express how much you love them. Sometimes the offspring's bad habits should be
seen as such and later he should be reminded that the habit is not good.
For
this, if children behave badly, they should not be punished immediately. You just have to calm yourself down for a while
and talk to them. Multiple beatings may not develop self-control
thinking on them. They
cannot decide for themselves what is good or bad. They are frustrated that they cannot do the
smallest thing.
Naturally, every child
makes minor mistakes, but the punishment for wrongdoing is not to beat or
misbehave. They should be informed
with examples of good and bad. What
cannot be beaten can be done with love. Remember, you too have made a mistake in your
childhood. So from today treat your children as friends, so that they do
not have to make mistakes or if then create a environment where they can accept
and share their mistakes.
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